Sex and Chocolate

Hey guys, have been busy recently but found a little time for a short new post.

Mood music: David Usher - Black Black Heart


Chances are the title of this article piqued your interest (the chocolate part for girls and the sex part for guys... :p ). However today I won't be talking about Belgian pralines or hooking up with a girl you just met 25 minutes ago. Sorry to disappoint (if you are looking for more traditional, "gamey" dating advice, check out the free Lovesystems articles here - very good stuff on a variety of topics, and 100% THM approved)

Our real purpose today is to examine the whole "most women prefer chocolate to sex" idea. Sure, chocolate tastes great (I always keep a large tab of dark chocolate next to my desk), enhances mood and is known for being an aphrodisiac, but there's one hypothesis that scientists haven't considered: that women don't prefer chocolate to sex at all!

In my experience, most women (especially those under the age of 25, those who are inexperienced or those who are not as in touch with themselves) would rather lie than admit to a sexual encounter being their ultimate turn-on. It'd be easy to cast blame or to be judgmental (keep this in mind for later, very important), especially when no one ends up getting laid and have to fall back on eating Hersheys in bed, alone. Still, looking at the past, this is very understandable indeed.

In the Victorian era, which ended 110 years ago, not a long time ago in the grand scheme of things, a woman's mood swings caused by libido was interpreted to be a sign of illness and referred to by doctors as female hysteria. No one bothered to find out the real reasons behind what was going on, and the medical professionals at the time ended up developing a set of draconian treatments which were oddly embarrassing at best, and mind-numbingly grotesque at worst. All this because a few women didn't want to admit to liking sex, and a few men didn't want to let them admit to it. Yikes...

All this to say that there's a lot of baggage and social stigma associate with the subject matter. Sure, we're in the second decade of the 21st century, but you see where we came from - there's still some vestiges of this close-mindedness or however else you want to call it. Calling a woman a slut is definitely the worst label she can ever be associated with. Sometimes I'm happy to be a guy just because I would never ever have to worry about that.

Recently a female acquaintance told me about her idea of juggling 7 boyfriends, one for each day of the week, to see what it would be like. I didn't exactly approve of her plan wholeheartedly, but it's her life and it did seem like an *interesting* experience to say the least, and I let her know that. On the other hand her actual friends, especially guys, seemed far less indulgent, and gave her a pretty rough time about even considering the idea. Though this knee-jerk reaction is understandable, since being cheated on by a promiscuous partner is pretty much everyone's worst fear, this attitude is counterproductive, because when a girl suspects that you will think any less of her for telling you exactly what's on her mind, what she needs and wants, and for following through with those desires, she will close herself off in the fear of being judged and labeled. It's hard to be honest, open and emotionally available when you feel judged for what you think and do, trust me. So next time, do me a favor, and just ask "Why?" when a girl tells you she once had a boyfriend for every day of the week or that she left her ex for his best friend instead of labeling her a slut. Then sit back and listen to her story before making up your mind. Who knows, maybe soon enough you'll both be enjoying sex AND chocolate together...


Much love,
THM